All the Ways We Become Family
Somatic Relationship Support for Queer and Trans People navigating fertility, pregnancy, loss and the many paths through family building
Building a family can be beautiful, complicated, heartbreaking, exhilarating, and exhausting — sometimes all at once.
For queer and trans people, these experiences are often shaped by systems that weren't built with us in mind, often by the choices we didn't have when we were younger, and by the complicated intersection of our identities and our relationships with our bodies.
Some of us become parents. Some of us experience pregnancy loss, infertility, or years of trying without the outcomes we'd hoped for. Some of us make the difficult decision to stop trying. And some of us find ourselves reimagining what family means altogether.
Every one of these journeys deserves recognition, care, and support.
I offer body-centered, trauma-informed, politically grounded relationship work for queer and trans couples, co-parents, and other family constellations navigating these experiences together.
Our work makes room for grief, joy, uncertainty, conflict, and change. Together, we build practical, embodied tools for navigating difficult moments, understanding old patterns, and staying connected to ourselves and one another — whatever the journey brings.
You might find yourself here if…
You're navigating fertility treatments, infertility, donor decisions, pregnancy, or other family-building experiences, and discovering that you and the people you love aren't always on the same page about what you want, need, or how to move forward.
You've stopped trying to have a child, or are facing the possibility that you might not become parents, and you're figuring out how to grieve, reconnect, and imagine what comes next together.
You're becoming a parent later than you'd hoped, and grieving the years when your various identities or the lack of accessible paths made building a family feel impossible or out of reach.
You're a survivor committed to breaking generational patterns, but the challenges of family building or parenting are bringing old survival strategies to the surface.
You've experienced pregnancy loss or infertility, and you're struggling to find spaces where the impact is recognized and you can bring your whole self to the conversation.
You're navigating the enormous changes of postpartum & early parenthood — shifting identities, changing bodies, sleep deprivation, new responsibilities, and changing relationships — and struggling to find your footing, individually and together.
The stress, uncertainty, grief, or exhaustion of this journey is leaving you feeling disconnected from yourself or each other, and making it harder to show up in your relationships the way you'd like.
You want to build a family — or a life together — that reflects your values, identities, bodies, and desires, rather than the normative expectations you've inherited about what family and parenthood are supposed to look like.
My values
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Body based
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Anti-Pathology
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Trauma Informed
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Rooted in Collective Liberation
Why I do this work & how we work together
As a queer, trans and disabled parent myself, I spent five years navigating loss, grief, joy, and uncertainty within the fertility industrial complex on my journey to parenthood — and countless years before that navigating the ways my identities shaped what felt possible for me in the first place.
That experience gave me a deep appreciation for just how complicated family building can be — and how much it can ask of our closest relationships. I know firsthand how isolating it can feel, how difficult it can be to find support that makes room for all of who we are, and how joy and grief can coexist even when we get the outcome we hoped for.
My own experience, alongside more than 15 years of somatic counseling and relationship work, shapes the space I offer to queer and trans people navigating their own family-building journeys.