Relationship & Couples Counseling

“Working with Bruin, I feel met, I feel seen, I feel respected and engaged with, I feel challenged but also supported and safe. He is able to help me and my partner find our growth edge, without pushing us over the edge into overwhelm. We almost always leave a session feeling a breath of movement and new energy. And when we don't, we feel like we are gaining the tools to be able to be comfortable with not feeling good all the time. I appreciate how he partners with me, with us, as a facilitator, but also allows us to lead the way. I can't speak highly enough of his work, his perspective, and his skill sets, and his heart.”

— WISE BODY, RELATIONSHIP CLIENT

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Relationships are hard!

For many of us, relationships have been places of profound hurt.
Often times the closer we are to another person the more we see their wounds and the more they see ours. 
Without access to support, many places of our deepest wounding enact more wounds on the people we love the most. 
We want to love and yet we hurt and harm.
​Relationships are so messy.

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I am here to help you build better tools: 

Tools so you can love others better. 

And so you can love yourself better, too.

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Contradictions and complexity run rampant in our relationships. 

How can we build bodies that can hold them and keep reaching towards practices that ​better serve both us and our partners?

Many of us are wounded by not-so-perfectly-healthy early childhood attachments.  We often replay these early attachment wounds in our adult relationships, relating from a defended stance that blocks us from experiencing true intimacy.

If our partner is wounded too, this is a recipe for getting stuck in the same conflict over and over.

Trauma and oppression impacts our relationships. Many of us did brilliant things to survive, and we don't know how to let go of those survival strategies even when we are offered the chance of a healthy, consent-filled connection.

They also can be places of profound growth.  
Of joy and connection like nothing else. 
Of healing and possibility.
Relationships can be places where we practice generative conflict. 
Relationships can be places where we practice showing up for little kid us and also practice embodying the values of big kid us.

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My values

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    Body based

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    Anti-Pathology

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    Trauma Informed

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    Rooted in Collective Liberation

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What if you and your partner/s could learn to…

Recover when you find yourself in the midst of a trigger, and be able to respond with your values as opposed to react out of just your emotions?

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Set boundaries that correspond to the present moment & that respect your capacity?

Make direct requests with your partner/s and practice how to better hear & respect their responses?

Explore various kinds of sexual intimacy & relationship styles to create a relationship container that best fits what you and your partner/s want and desire?

Understand your individual attachment style better and how it interacts with your partner/s attachment style/s?

Develop tools for conflict that are generative, build intimacy and are aligned with your values

Get started with Wise Body, today.

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